“IfyouwanttoknowwhyHarrietLernerisoneofmygreatheroes,WhyWon’tYouApologize?istheanswer.Thisbookisagamechanger.“--Bren矇Brown,PhD,LMSW,authorofthe#1NewYorkTimesbestsellerRisingStrong“HarrietLernerisonehellofawisewoman.Shedrawsyouinwithdeftandengagingprose,andthenchangesyourlifewithherrigorousintelligenceandherdeeplyhumanadvice.Ipromisethatyouwillneversee’theapology’inquitethesameway.“--EstherPerel,MA,LMFTauthorofMatinginCaptivityRenownedpsychologistandbestsellingauthorofTheDanceofAngershedsnewlightonthetwomostimportantwordsintheEnglishlanguage--I’msorry--andoffersauniqueperspectiveonthechallengeofhealingbrokenconnectionsandrestoringtrust.Dr.HarrietLernerhasbeenstudyingapologies--andwhysomepeoplewon’tgivethem--formorethantwodecades.Nowsheofferscompellingstoriesandsolidtheorythatbringhomehowmuchthesimpleapologymattersandwhatisrequiredforhealingwhenthehurtwe’veinflicted(orreceived)isfarfromsimple.Readerswilllearnhowtocraftadeeplymeaningful“I’msorry“andavoidapologiesthatonlydeepentheoriginalinjury.WhyWon’tYouApologize?alsoaddressesthecompellingneedsoftheinjuredparty--theonewhohasbeenhurtbysomeonewhowon’tapologize,tellthetruth,orfeelremorse.Lernerexplainswhatdrivesboththenon-apologizerandtheover-apologizer,aswellaswhythepeoplewhodotheworstthingsaretheleastabletoownup.Shehelpstheinjuredpersonresistpressuretoforgivetooeasilyandchallengesthepopularnotionthatforgivenessistheonlypathtopeaceofmind.Withhertrademarkhumorandwit,Lerneroffersajoyfulandsanity-savingguidetosettingthingsright.
